If you like to get emotional at the movies, then THE BIG SICK (2017) is the film for you.
It’s both hilarious and moving, a comedy that will make you laugh out loud, and a love story that will tug at your heartstrings.
THE BIG SICK is based on the real-life romance between actor/writer Kumail Nanjiani and his wife Emily V. Gordon. The film is a fictionalized account of their courtship.
Kumail (Kumail Nanjiani) is a young stand-up comedian trying to launch his career in the comedy clubs in Chicago. One night he strikes up a conversation with an audience member, a young woman named Emily (Zoe Kazan) and after the show he joins her for a drink. They hit it off instantly, and the next thing you know the two are involved in a romance.
Kumail, however, comes from a strict Muslim family from Pakistan, and as such, they practice arranged marriages and fully expect Kumail to marry a Pakistani woman. It’s a recurring event at Kumail’s home for there to be a knock at the door during dinner, prompting his mom Sharmeen (Zenobia Shroff) to say, “Look who just dropped in,” as she introduces these available young Pakistani women to her son. But Kumail just isn’t interested in these women or the idea of an arranged marriage. He feels trapped, because his parents feel so strongly about arranged marriages that if he were to tell them the truth, that he was in love with an American woman, they would disown them, and this is something he doesn’t want to happen.
When Emily learns that Kumail has no intention of telling his parents about her, she flips out and tells him she cannot be in a relationship with him. They say some pretty hurtful things to each other. Shortly thereafter, Emily becomes very sick with an infection in her lungs due to some unknown virus. She is admitted to the hospital where doctors are forced to put her in a medically induced coma in order to save her life.
It’s at the hospital where Kumail first meets Emily’s parents, Beth (Holly Hunter) and Terry (Ray Romano), who both know about the break-up and so aren’t too keen at first about having Kumail stay at the hospital with them. But when Kumail decides he’s not going to leave Emily’s side, Beth and Terry relent, and the three end up spending time together. They get to know each other as they deal with the unknowns and dangers of Emily’s decreasing health.
THE BIG SICK has a phenomenal script by Kumail Nanjiani and Emily V. Gordon. It’s witty, insightful, and refreshingly honest. There are countless laugh-out-loud moments, like when Terry sits down with Kumail and starts asking him about 9/11. The scene where Emily suddenly has to run out in the middle of the night to visit a diner is honest and funny.
The film does a nice job with how Kumail views his family. He desperately wants them to approve of his American lifestyle, but they won’t, and he feels so torn by this that he can’t bring himself to tell them about Emily. And the scenes during the second half of the movie where Kumail gets to know Emily’s parents are some of the best scenes in the movie.
The film is full of memorable characters, from Kumail and Emily themselves, to Kumail’s family, to Emily’s parents, to Kumail’s colorful comedian friends.
THE BIG SICK also sports a strong cast. Kumail Nanjiani does a nice job playing a fictionalized version of himself. As depicted in the movie, Kumail is a likable character, and you want to see him achieve his dreams.
Likewise, Zoe Kazan (the granddaughter of acclaimed film director Elia Kazan) is excellent as Emily. She’s exceedingly quirky and energetic. She’s the spark which drives the first half of the movie.
And one of the reasons THE BIG SICK is such a strong movie is that when Emily goes into a coma and suddenly is removed from the action, the film doesn’t skip a beat. In fact, it gets better.
This is mostly because both Holly Hunter and Ray Romano nail their roles as Emily’s parents, Beth and Terry. Hunter plays Beth as quirky as her daughter Emily, and at first she is openly hostile towards Kumail because she knows he has hurt Emily. Terry is more open to having Kumail stay with them at the hospital, and as the three of them get to know each other, it makes for some of the better scenes in the film. Romano and Nanjiani in particular share a bunch of humorous scenes together.
Hunter is perky and energetic, and Romano is laid back and lethargic, and you wonder how they got together in the first place. They really do bring this troubled married couple to life.
Kumail’s parents are just as interesting. Zenobia Shroff is very good as Kumail’s mother Sharmeen, who is relentless in her pursuit to have Kumail marry a Muslim woman. Anupam Kher is also very good as Kumail’s father Azmat. He has some particularly powerful scenes near the end when he desperately pleads with Kumail to honor and respect his mother. Kher was also memorable as Bradley Cooper’s doctor, Dr. Cliff Patel, in SILVER LININGS PLAYBOOK (2012).
Adeel Akhtar also stands out as Kumail’s brother Naveed, who is constantly sparring with his brother, trying to get him to see things his parents’ way, arguing for instance that Kumail needs to show his parents’ respect by growing a beard.
The film really showcases the cultural differences between this Pakistani family and their Americanized son. Kumail’s pain really comes through, as you can see that he wants no part of his family’s beliefs, but he does want to be part of his family. They are important to him. He wants them to accept him the way he is, but because of their strong cultural ties and religious beliefs, it’s something they are not prepared to do.
Then there’s the whole stand-up comic scene in Chicago, which is also an integral part of this story. Kumail has a colorful group of comedian friends, including his hopeless roommate Chris (Kurt Braunohler) whose Charlie Brown luck and awful comedy is the butt of many of his friends’ jokes. For instance, he has the misfortune of calling on Emily’s parents in the audience, and he asks them what brings them to Chicago, to which Holly Hunter’s Beth replies, “Our daughter is in a coma.” The audience goes silent, and Chris fumbles and hesitates, before awkwardly addressing someone else: “So, what brings you to Chicago?”
THE BIG SICK has it all: fine acting, perceptive writing, and solid directing by Michael Showalter. It’s one of those movies where after it ends, you just want to see it again.
It’s funny, poignant, and refreshingly honest. It has a lot to say about relationships, cultural differences, and the lengths people will go to make a relationship work when they’re in love.
I loved THE BIG SICK. It’s one of my favorite films of the year.